[simpits-tech] OT:An excerpt from a Mormon missionary guide, circa 1970

[Marc Quintin]

STEPS IN OVERCOMING MASTURBATION
Mark E. Petersen
Council of the 12 Apostles
Be assured that you can be cured of your difficulty. Many have been, both 
male and female, and you can be also if you determine that it must be so.
This determination is the first step. That is where we begin. You must 
decide that you will end this practice, and when you make that decision, the 
problem will be greatly reduced at once.

But it must be more than a hope or a whish, more than knowing that it is 
good for you. It must be actually a DECISION. If you truly make up your mind 
that you will be cured, then you will have the strength to resist any 
tendencies which you may have and any temptations which may come to you.

After you have made this decision, then observe the following specific 
guidelines:



A Guide to Self-Control

Never touch the intimate parts of your body except during normal toilet 
processes.
Avoid being alone as much as possible. Find good company and stay in this 
good company.
If you are associated with other persons having this same problem, YOU MUST 
BREAK OFF THEIR FRIENDSHIP. Never associate with other people having the 
same weakness. Don't suppose that two of you will quit together, you never 
will. You must get away from people of that kind. Just to be in their 
presence will keep your problem foremost in your mind. The problem must be 
taken OUT OF YOUR MIND for that is where it really exists. Your mind must be 
on other and more wholesome things.
When you bathe, do not admire yourself in a mirror. Never stay in the bath 
more than five or six minutes -- just long enough to bathe and dry and dress 
AND THEN GET OUT OF THE BATHROOM into a room where you will have some member 
of your family present.
When in bed, if that is where you have your problem for the most part, dress 
yourself for the night so securely that you cannot easily touch your vital 
parts, and so that it would be difficult and time consuming for you to 
remove those clothes. By the time you started to remove protective clothing 
you would have sufficiently controlled your thinking that the temptation 
would leave you.
If the temptation seems overpowering while you are in bed, GET OUT OF BED 
AND GO INTO THE KITCHEN AND FIX YOURSELF A SNACK, even if it is in the 
middle of the night, and even if you are not hungry, and despite your fears 
of gaining weight. The purpose behind this suggestion is that you GET YOUR 
MIND ON SOMETHING ELSE. You are the subject of your thoughts, so to speak.
Never read pornographic material. Never read about your problem. Keep it out 
of mind. Remember -- "First a thought, then an act." The thought pattern 
must be changed. You must not allow this problem to remain in your mind. 
When you accomplish that, you soon will be free of the act.
Put wholesome thoughts into your mind at all times. Read good books -- 
Church books -- Scriptures -- Sermons of the Brethern [sic, Cistern too?]. 
Make a daily habit of reading at least one chapter of Scripture, preferably 
from one of the four Gospels in the New Testament, or the Book of Mormon. 
The four Gospels -- Matthew, Mark, Luke and John -- above anything else in 
the Bible can be helpful because of their uplifting qualities.
Pray. But when you pray, don't pray about this problem, for that will tend 
to keep [it] in your mind more than ever. Pray for faith, pray for 
understanding of the Scriptures, pray for the Missionaries, the General 
Authorities, your friends, your families, BUT KEEP THE PROBLEM OUT OF YOUR 
MIND BY NOT MENTIONING IT EVER -- NOT IN CONVERSATION WITH OTHERS, NOT IN 
YOUR PRAYERS. KEEP IT _OUT_ of your mind!
The attitude of a person toward his problem has an affect [sic] on how easy 
it is to overcome. It is essential that a firm commitment be made to control 
the habit. As a person understands his reasons for the behavior, and is 
sensitive to the conditions or situations that may trigger a desire for the 
act, he develops the power to control it.

We are taught that our bodies are temples of God, and are to be clean so 
that the Holy Ghost may dwell within us. Masturbation is a sinful habit that 
robs one of the Spirit and creates guilt and emotional stress. It is not 
physically harmful unless practiced in the extreme. It is a habit that is 
totally self-centered, and secretive, and in no way expresses the proper use 
of the procreative power given to man to fulfill eternal purposes. It 
therefore separates a person from God and defeats the gospel plan.

This self-gratifying activity will cause one to lose his self-respect 
testimony becomes weak, and missionary work and other Church callings become 
burdensome, offerings.

To help in planning an effective program to overcome the problem a brieation 
is given of how the reproductive organs in a young man function.

The testes in your body are continually producing hundreds of millions of 
reproductive cells call spermatozoa. These are moved up a tube called the 
vas deferens to a place called the ampulla where they are mixed with fluids 
from two membranous pouches called seminal vesicles and the prostate gland. 
The resultant fluid is calleeminal vesicles are full a signa to the central 
nervous system indicating they are ready to benother, depending on such 
things as exercise, state of health, etc. everal times a week, for others.

It is normal for the vesicles to be emptied occasionally at night during the 
emptying of come from the cetral nervous system. Often an erotic dream is 
experienced at the same time, and is a part of this normal process. Instead 
ourse, the reproductive system is operating at a more rapid pace, trying to 
keep up with the loss of semen. When he stops the habit, the body will 
continue to produce at his increased rate, for an indefese are not harmful 
and are to be endured until the normal central nervous system pathway of rel 
[NOTE: The rest of the paragraph is missing.]

As one meets with his Priesthood Leader, a program for overcoming 
masturbation can be implemented using some of the techniques mentioned 
above. Remember it is essential that a regular report program be agreed on, 
so progress can be recognized and failures understood and eliminated.



Suggestions

Pray daily, ask for the gifts of the Spirit, that which will strengthen you 
against temptation. Pray fervently and not lout when the temptations are the 
strongest.
Follow a program of vigorous daily exercise. The exercises reduce emotional 
tension and depression and are absolutely basic to the solution of this 
problem. Double your physical activity when you feel stress increasing.
When the temptation to masturbate is strong, yell _STOP_ to those thoughts 
as loudly as you can in your mind and then recite a prechosen Scripture or 
sing an inspirational hymn. It is important to turn your thoughts away from 
the selfish need to indulge.
Set goals of abstinence, begin with a day, then a week, month, year and 
finally commit to never doing it again. Until you commit yourself to _never 
again_ you will always be open to temptation.
Change in behavior and attitude is most easily achieved through a changed 
self-image. Spend time every day imagining yourself strong and in control, 
easily overcoming tempting situations.
Begin to work daily on a self-improvement program. Relate this plan to 
improving your Church service, to improving your relationships with your 
family, God and others. Strive to enhance your strengths and talents.
Be outgoing and friendly. Force yourself to be with others and learn to 
enjoy working and talking to them. Use principles of developing friendships 
found in books such as _How to Win Friends and Influence People_ by Dale 
Carnegie.
Be aware of situations that depress you or that cause you to feel lonely, 
bored, frustrated or discouraged. These emotional states can trigger the 
desire to masturbate as a way of escape. Plan in advance to counter these 
low periods through various activities, such as reading a book, visiting a 
friend, doing something athletic, etc.
Make a pocket calendar for a month on a small card. Carry it with you, but 
show it to no one. If you have a lapse of self control, color the day black. 
Your goal will be to have _no black days_. The calendar becomes a strong 
visual reminder of self control and should be looked at when you are tempted 
to add another black day. Keep your calendar up until you have at least 
three clear months.
A careful study will indicate you have had the problem at certain times and 
under certain conditions. Try and recall, in detail, what your particular 
times and conditions were. Now that you understand how it happens, plan to 
break the pattern through counter activities.
In the field of psychotherapy there is a very effective technique called 
_aversion therapy_. When we associate or think of something very distasteful 
with something which has been pleasurable, but undesirable, the distasteful 
thought and feeling will begin to cancel out that which was pleasurable. If 
you associate something very distasteful with your loss of self-control it 
will help you to stop the act. For example, if you are tempted to 
masturbate, think of having to bathe in a tub of worms, and eat several of 
them as you do the act.
During your toileting and shower activities leave the bathroom door or 
shower curtain partly open, to discourage being alone in total privacy. Take 
cool brief showers.
Arise immediately in the mornings. Do not lie in bed awake, no matter what 
time of day it is. Get up and do something. Start each day with an 
enthusiastic activity.
Keep your bladder empty. Refrain from drinking large amounts of fluids 
before retiring.
Reduce the amount of spices and condiments in your food. Eat as lightly as 
possible at night.
Wear pajamas that are difficult to open, yet loose and not binding.
Avoid people, situations, pictures or reading materials that might create 
sexual excitement.
It is sometimes helpful to have a physical object to use in overcoming this 
problem. A Book of Mormon, firmly held in hand, even in bed at night has 
proven helpful in extreme cases.
In very severe cases it may be necessary to tie a hand to the bed frame with 
a tie in order that the habit of masturbating in a semi-sleep condition can 
be broken. This can also be accomplished by wearing several layers of 
clothing which would be difficult to remove while half asleep.
Set up a reward system for your successes. It does not have to be a big 
reward. A quarter in a receptacle each time you overcome or reach a goal. 
Spend it on something which delights you and will be a continuing reminder 
of your progress.
Do not let yourself return to any past habit or attitude patterns which were 
part of your problem. Satan Never Gives Up. Be calmly and confidently on 
guard. Keep a positive mental attitude. You can win this fight! The joy and 
strength you will feel when you do will give your whole life a radiant and 
spiritual glow of satisfaction and fulfillment.

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